By far, one of the most significant happenings of my new year was the reemergence of my friend "BOB."
BOB is one of my closest friends.
He's stylish, sexy, and very fun, and at times a bit outrageous, a tad promiscuous, and totally out of control.
He is the star of some of my favorite blogs, including "Betty Cocker Birthday," where he used my 30th birthday cake as a sex toy, "Kissing and Pissing," where he accidentally pissed all over a guy but still managed to get him into bed, and "Three Men and a BOB," where he somehow juggled three guys in the same night.
About this time last year, BOB and I both got into relationships. Mine lasted only three months, but BOB's lasted almost a year.
Before his relationship, BOB had been crazy, a classic party animal that could barely be contained. But once he "settled down," he fell off the face of the earth, at least in a social sense. While I spent the last eight months dating and hitting up parties, gallery openings, festivals, and "the scene," BOB was rarely around.
Like most couples, BOB and his BF liked to double date, so they did a lot of activities with straight, married folks. When I was dating someone, I was often invited to join them as well. I think that BOB's BF, knowing how crazy BOB used to be, didn't trust BOB to be alone in social settings, so it was a rare occasion that I saw BOB outside of double-date situations.
Despite the fact that I didn't get to see my friend as often, I was happy for him and for the couple. BOB and his BF appeared to be a shining example of how a gay relationship could work. Recently, the couple decided to buy a house together. Most of our friends thought it was way too soon, as they'd only known each other for nine months when they made the offer.
BOB sold his house, and a month before the couple was to close on their new home, BOB got cold feet and told his BF that he didn't want to go through with the purchase.
The BF told him that it was a step back in the relationship, and at that point, drama ensued, there was a huge blowup, and the relationship took an abrupt and resounding halt.
A few days later, BOB moved into my extra room in the house.
When I spoke with BOB about the relationship, I found out that it wasn't quite as perfect as the picture they'd painted. I won't go into why, as BOB wouldn't appreciate that, but in the end, the break-up appears to be a very good thing.
In the last month since BOB has moved in, things have gotten crazy again.
We spent a wild weekend at his lake house an hour south of Dallas, BOB has reclaimed his title as the king of Mi Cocina (West Village), the gay restaurant hot spot in Dallas for Friday nights, and BOB has dragged me on numerous excursions around town looking for the ever-elusive "Megahottie," the extremely hot-model-looking-hunk (albeit arrogant as hell) that I've also stalked at times over the last year.
BOB has not fully emerged as a sexual force in the gay community yet, as I think he's still getting over the breakup, but at the rate he's going, I don't think it will take long for him to return to his old ways.
*I get a lot of questions from readers, some of which are sexual in nature. BOB, who is much more of an expert in the sex department, has agreed to help me out with some of these questions. Hence, I will be introducing BOB's Sex Tips in the next couple of weeks! Watch out!





I find that relationships can sometimes (almost always) cause us to change who we are.
Although, if the bf didn't trust Bob enough to be out by himself, then they definitely shouldn't have been buying a house together.
Sounds like Bob did the right thing.
Posted by: jay | March 06, 2008 at 08:02 PM
Awesome... and summers not even here yet... What a great adventure this will be...
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